Lynn Hollars: He is controlling you. And that can be a type of abuse...Its not a healthy way to live. Just because you are married doesn't mean you have to do as he says all the time
Weldon Totaro: The ones over 30 know they are well past the "use by" date and have become expired products. The Wall is not kind nor should it be.If they hate men, so be it. No loss to the gene pool.
Jonelle Eligio: When I finally choose to get married, I'll be in it forever.The only things that would cause me to run to the divorce office is if he became emotionally or verbally abusive, constantly lied or deceived me, cheated on me or lost respect for me. I wouldn't stand those things or even want to.
Hai Biggart: the reason they stayed single is 'cause they're lesbians. and lesbians always hate men. ALL men!
Maurice Breuning: i believe in no divorce...i think the only reason i would get a divorce is if i caught my husband with another womenother than that any other p! roblems are easily talked out no matter how stressful it may be =)
Isreal Kochheiser: it does not inevitably recommend marriage, i do no longer understand for what reason he suggested it however the long haul has a super type of meanings like a being pregnant. he would be with you the excellent this type of super type of months. or your in hardship going to penal complex or incarceration of yet another type that he's in it for the long haul it has many meanings.
Christiane Cattano: you may not agree or want to here this but these are two separate issues. I went through the same thing. yes he still has rights to see the child. even though he hasn't paid child support. what you need to do is get him back in front of the judge he will take care of the situation. good luck to you
Noah Deni: Yes, paying child support is just that support for the child. It is not payment to see the child. Thats terrible that he isnt paying, but you can take legal action for that! . Try to keep a good bond with the child you have together and! both parents.
Caleb Chapman: I wouldn't call that abusive, but stingy and greedy. I don't understand why he would be stingy with money for food or why you only get 2 suits of clthes for the winter. Maybe that's just how he grew up and that's what he's used to. Now you, growing up in the USA, were raised completely different. Try financial or marraige counseling.
Arden Strachn: Yes he does. Paying child support is very important, but it shouldn't be tied into seeing his children, it isn't fair for the child. This problem also shouldn't be talked about to the child or in front of the child, it is not the child's concern who is paying what and who is not. The child just needs to know that both parents love him/her.
Eulah Hugill: You may have a point, but you'd be making a mistake to think that there are not many other explanations such as you're seeing what you want to and discounting or skipping explanations like not having much regard for women older th! an 30.
Rachell Meese: yes, we actually meant it when we said "till death do us part." and we were committed to working on our marriage so that we are both happy and satisfied with it, as hard as it is sometimes. 9 years and still very happy and working on it.
Dominic Sciancalepore: Maybe you shouldn't be dating them since your married
Leann Villalta: From what I understand, most people start out that way - but they don't know what the 'no matter what' part means.
Perry Deshazior: To the best of my knowledge everyone is aging. I am not aware of anyone who gets younger every year.Other than that, I don't notice what you notice. Maybe we travel in different circumstances.Maybe the problem why they are single is because of their inability to write in English.
Mark Hovanes: I notice intense bitterness from them, especially towards men who are well educated, good looking, and successful in life who are married with children. Maybe the problem why t! hey are single is because of their hatred towards men
Nilda Bafia! : Oh HELL NO! Dude leave that a$$hole! You can find another man. I know it might be hard but I know in the long run that you will be able to find another man. Just because he has money int the bank doesn't mean hes going to spend it on you or YOUR kids. It seems like he doesnt even care about your kids by not giving you money for you children birthday present! Why should you even wonder about him if he has that kind of physical power over you and your children's relationship. Trash him. I'm guessing at this point you kind of wish you had a long time ago. :(
Eulah Hugill: Does it matter? You are not willing to put up with it. If you can't find a job, then it is time to define things. Marriage is teamwork, if the team means one will not work and the other will control the first one with the money, then it is time to search for a new strategy.
Sol Bayn: That should be the plan or else, why bother? Right?
Barrett Zheng: ...we are in a marriage to share, comm! unicate, listen and love....we are there to share our lives, in love...red
Majorie Chester: If you shop out of town, you can't complain if the goods aren't local friendly.
Jerrod Guilfoil: I have given a lot of thought over the years about marriage and why so many divorces and I think I have figuared it out Here is my responce;;;Too many people are in love with the 'ideal' of being in love..They have a sexual encounter with someone , have great sex and feel good being with this other person and Bam,, you think you are in love.. Then after the marriage the sex falls off due to stress and the hardships of real life and ,Bam again, you have just fallen out of love,,, People base love on their idea of what love is,,, When in fact they never understand that this feeling is explained in the wedding vows,, To Love Honor and Cherish,, in Sickness And Health, During good Times and Bad,,,, If people really took the time to examine what the true meaning of these words mea! nt The nations divorce rate would drop by half,,, So make your own deci! sion on your situation,, Know one here can answer for you, and to ask for our opinion is unfair of you and every one else that posts these questions on this site.. The old cliche' is You made your bed , Now you lie in it......Show more
Willis Liburd: yespaying child support is not to pay to see your kids child support is to help pay for the things the kids need in lifeonly way a father can not see kids is if its stated in divorce papers by a judge or other papers
Autumn Vacio: Child support and visitation DO NOT fall hand in hand. You can get one without the other. Child support is not contingent on visitation nor the other way around. But, if it is any consultation, child support NEVER goes away. You can collect your support 20 years from now after he has settled down and gotten a good job, bought a house and long since forgotten about you coming after the arrears. Patience...you'll get it.
Judie Kise: It really sounds as if he has you on lock-down. ! You can earn your own income - that's definitely part of our society today. Women should be independant or if not otherwise husband should provide more than just money to stay stuck in a hotel room. I don't think all men are the same, but this is definitely not a nice guy. You should ask yourself what do you think? How do you feel being in that relationship? Are you happy? Somewhat=Abusive!
Carmelina Enoch: Yes, child support and child visitation are two seperate things. You cannot withhold one just because he's been negligent on the other. The same rule would apply if he was paying child support but you were withholding the child.
Robin Marchione: I believe that marriage is something you enter into for the long haul as you put it. But unfortunalty not to many people do and they take it for granted. You pledge your life to your partner for better or for worse. But I would have to say that if your partner physically or verbally abuses you, and they cheat on! you more than once, cause sometime we do make mistakes and they should! be forgiven, but we are not to be trampled on. That these are definatly good enough grounds to get a divorce....Show more
Morris Cuomo: it depends on the situation . i have been divorced for 8 yrs and had two kids with my ex . he is a good father and that is really the only thing that matters you have to ask your self will it hurt the kids to not see there father? i know it's hard but i have been through alot of things with him and i get angry and want to take him back to court and raise his child support and stop his visitation but then i think how will my kids feel if i do that ? as long as they are safe and your ex is making an attemp i say yes the kids will grow up and realize he was a deadbeat but if you stand in the middle they will be angry with you
Torrie Weissenbach: I think it's probably more to do with his background, not abuse. However, it's not normal for your background, and maybe you'll never adjust. You need to get in touch with women from his ! place of origin... find out how they cope. You might need to take on different morals and standards. It's difficult and I'm sorry you've got to learn to cope with this in the first place.
Emile Midgley: In the divorce papers it states father has to pay child support. But the father has not been paying. Does he still have rights to see the child even though he has not paid support?
Bryan Avinger: Why do men who are aging and perpetually single over the age of 30 hate women so much ?
Season Confalone: No matter what...hummmmm my ex husband tried to murder me....I got divorced. My second ex got our babysiter pregnant and I found he fathered another child out there same age as our second son.hujmmmmm these are NOT no matter what..but I was in it for the long haul...doing something that you can forgive is one thing...some things are just not forgivable....
Torri Tippey: In a nutshell....I brought him to this country...he was POOR when I married him..not ! a penny to his name. Now he makes over $50k a year and will be making 8! 0k in a few years. He has saved near 60k in the bank. He was abusive before keeping the kitchen almost bare and not wanting to spend over $40-50 a week in groceries, but that changed with my fighting it. Did not want to give me but 2 sets of clothes for the winter. I do not have a job because I am overseas with him (he's in a job that requires it) so I can not find a job. Willing to work in the usa and take care of myself to some extent and help. I have 2 kids from a previous marriage. He will pay me to go see them BUT will not give enough money to do ANYTHING but stay in the hotel room. Said it was my problem I did not have money for "extras" like give my daughter a gift for her birthday. Also is slightly verbally abusive and has a BAD temper/short fuse.So Abusive or not? Are normal men like this? What do you think?
Marielle Hedeiros: I feel like I am, but each situation varies. We all make mistakes and have flaws so I would say that I would be open minded at all tim! es. However, there are somethings that hit you harder than others and affect you differently. I say that I am, but I guess only time will tell. I love my spouse, but I love ME too. I know a couple who have had that talk and agree that they were in it for the "LONG HAUL" they have been married for 14 years and really have seen a few hard times, but they are REALLY truly happy with their relationship....Show more
Cliff Jacoby: I dont think that a parent should not be pulling his/her weight when it comes to supporting the child and by supporting I mean mentally, emotionally educationall, financially etc. I think you should seek the assistance of the proper authorities to help you out with this problem because it places the child at a disadvantage. The child needs to know that both parents will give them full support when they have a need for anything. P.S. Never let the first option be a case of keepin the child away from the next parent, this is only a vindictive act an! d in turn this only hurts the child.
Danica Timperman: $50K is no! t that great. Even $80K won't buy you a house here in California, so the money shouldn't be keeping you in th relationship. You can do ALOT better in that area.Do you love him?If not, run.No husband should ever be abusive physically or verbally or emotionally.
Gwenda Micheals: Yes he still has the right to see his child. One has nothing to do with the other. As a matter of fact, he could take you to court for contepmt if you stop his visitation. YOU however have the right to file a complaint yourself and have the support go through the state!! I had to do that. My ex was over 6 months past due....It amazed me how quickly he coughed up the dough when I got the state involved....now that it goes through the sate...those checks show up like clockwork. Best wishes!
Manie Labat: that is what I believe would be the reason for marriage..although I am divorced..u get married expecting it to be for 4ever unfortunately there are some things that just can't be worked! out I caught my ex with another and I couldn't bare being w/him again..some may find that it is worth moving past that also it is all up to the individual and what they r willing to forgive some have religous beliefs that they work through w/e and everything..more power to those that can
Corrina Faro: Who are these people? There is a very high divorce rate in our country. It's an unfortunate fact that people divorce easily in this country.
Ardath Templer: Normal men aren't like this. I've never been married, but I know that's not right. You should be able to do what you want. It is slightly abusive, yes..
Russ Kiernan: Personally, I think everyone goes into their marriages feeling that way. But people grow within their marriages. People change. Things happen. And eventually some people realize that their happiness is more important than their vows.
Dee Depung: I believe in marriage for the long haul, but if he wasn't happy and wanted out or if h! e was abusive in any form to any of us then I would consider divorce. I! want us all to be happy and in a healthy relationship. =)
Chris Coggins: legally, yes.
Lavelle Viveiros: Absolutely. Do not get visitation confused with financial support. A child can not be 'held for ransom' to make the father's pay for support.In order to get payment, you should contact your attorney and have them pursue it. The attorney will get their fees from the person who is refusing to pay the support so they should be more than happy to help you.In Texas, if the person required to pay support is not doing so, the person who is supposed to receive the support can file with the District Attorney. Then the state will garnish the wages and/or have the non-payer arrested.By the way, this works for both non-paying dads or non-paying moms.Hope this helps!
Gertrude Darke: all men are not like this ,you need to leave him before you get real hurt and have mental issues because you will be traumatized and you will be scared to be in a real relationshi! p with a real man who knows how to treat a women because once you been hurt you going to be scared that all men is to do the same good luck
Solomon Belback: You need to evaluate what your principles as a wife are. I'm all for being diverse, but you're giving up safety, comfort and basic human rights while you're married to this guy. You made a bad deal, you need to cut your losses and come home.